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If you’ve reached the point where Enough Is Enough and you’ve decided that you deserve to live a much happier, purpose driven, abundant life than you are now, that’s fabulous!  Making the decision to change your life is the first and most important step to turning things around.

If you made use of our free worksheet (or any other means!) to describe your vision for the rest of your life, you’ll now have a pretty clear picture of where you intend to go.

Now what? 

It’s all too easy to get discouraged, confused and overwhelmed.  How on earth am I going to live this amazing life I’ve visualised for myself when it seems so impossibly far out of reach?

Who am I kidding?

And after we take our dreams back off the shelf and dust them off, ready to make them happen at last, we start to listen to the Voices in our head telling us why it can’t be done.  How on earth will you make this dream a reality?

This is where I personally got stuck for years.  The gap between where I was and where I wanted to be was just too wide.  It felt like I’d have to climb Mount Everest, swim the entire Atlantic Ocean and trek through the Gobi desert before I could achieve anywhere near my dream life.

As humans, we are programmed with this safety mechanism.  Anything out of our ordinary mundane life is marked DANGER AHEAD – MOVE BACK!  We look at crossing the bridge between where we are and where we want to be like having to walk over fiery hot coals and so we retreat back to the safety of our mundane – but predictable – lives.  Where we feel miserable, but at least safe!

Ignore those voices in your head!

Yes, you need to heed any real safety alerts that come your way (like ‘don’t cross the road until that lorry has passed’), but trying to change your life for the better is hardly life threatening, even though it may feel so!

Don’t overthink things

And I am talking from experience here!  I would literally spend hours thinking and thinking and thinking … and thinking … how would I do this?  And if I did that, what if this happened?  Hours later, I would have concocted up all the negative ‘what if ‘scenarios that ‘might’ happen and conclude that it was pointless to even begin with all these obstacles I would probably encounter.

Well.  That’s pretty much like getting into your car to go on a journey across town and then think … well, what if suddenly a tornado comes out of nowhere?  What if a sinkhole appears in the road as I’m driving on it?  And what about all those traffic lights that will slow me down?  What if my steering wheel falls off as I’m on the motorway?  What if an alien spaceship abducts me as I’m driving along? 

This is our imagination running wild – in the opposite direction we need it to!  My negative thinking seemed pretty acceptable at the time but now I see how absolutely silly it was to think of all the things that could possibly go wrong and scare myself into analysis paralysis.

Allow things to unfold

This was not easy for me.  I was someone who wanted to see the whole darn staircase before I took the first step!  Most of us are all so externally focused that we want to SEE evidence that things will work out before we make a move.  That’s not going to happen!  We have to make the first move and simply trust the process.  Once we take the first step, the next will unfold.  Once we open one door, the next one appears.  And with each step we take, we become stronger and more able.  Just as when a baby starts walking, it falls, gets up again, and gets better and better at it as they keep moving.  Babies don’t sit and think ‘well let me watch and analyse how so and so walks before I give it a try.’  Neither do they think there is no point in trying because they’ll probably fall over.  They just get up and DO IT and trust the process.  We need to go back to that having that fearless childlike faith we used to have.  Before we cared what other people might think.  Before we feared failure.  All we need to do is simply hone in on the target (e.g. walking for a baby) and just getting on with it!  Any obstacles that appear – and they will – we will deal with as they come!

“A ship is safe in harbour but that’s not what ships are built for.” ~ John Augustus Shedd

This quote has always been near and dear to me over the years.

We are like that ship.  We can either tiptoe through life safely and get to the other side unscathed; or we can take on the sometimes calm, sometimes stormy seas of life and have a grand adventure of self-discovery – discovering who we truly are and what we are capable of achieving.

Trusting the process means trusting ourselves more.  Trusting in our ability to create the life we choose instead of settling for the one we fell into somewhere along the way.  Trusting and tuning into our own intuition more than we trust and listen to what other people think.

Trusting the process is scary.  But you’re already trusting a process of some sort anyway – whether it’s the process of ‘staying in the harbour’ or the process of navigating over the seas to an amazing destination. 

You don’t need to do something completely crazy – all you need to do is take that first step.  And let the rest unfold, as it’s meant to.

Like Martin Luther King Junior said:  Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.