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Do you have dreams?

I always used to feel silly if I got caught ‘daydreaming’ – staring into the oblivion, living in another wonderful, imaginary world.

I’d quickly shake it off and ‘get back to reality’, which was usually something rather mundane and uninspiring!

And yet, those are important moments when our dreams come and gently nudge us, reminding us that they exist.

And instead of listening to those dreams whispering to us to take hold of them and turn them into reality, we brush them off … tell them to go away because we have more important things to do, like going through the motions of our daily, monotonous lives.

Some of us were always told growing up to ‘get our head out of the clouds’ and into the ‘real world’ – a world where you just had to do what you had to do to keep your head above water and keep silly, fanciful ideas at bay.

Or else, we’re afraid to raise our hopes because what we secretly dream about seems so far fetched and ridiculous.  We’d rather live mediocre, uninspiring lives because we’re afraid that if we give our dreams a go, we’ll be disappointed.

But what do you have to lose by giving your dreams a chance?

I think the saddest thing is to reach the end of your life and die with your dreams still inside of you, never having seen the light of day.

Isn’t it better to try and fail rather than not try at all?

So, what is your dream?

Maybe you have to spend some time getting back into dream mode.  There’s always reminders around you, if you open your eyes to see them – reminding you of that seed of potential you have deep inside you, just waiting to germinate and flourish, if you give it enough attention.

There’s a quote I love by James Allen:

“Dreams are the seedlings of reality.”

And instead of starving that little seedling and letting it wither away and die, you want to nourish it and let it grow!

So get dreaming again!

In my Born to Flourish® planner-journal, there is a whole section dedicated to Dreaming – crafting your vision for your life and setting goals that align with that vision.

Dreams give us hope, a vision for the future – something to aim for and work towards achieving.

Dreams enable us to live with passion and purpose because we’re not aimlessly going through the motions each day – existing instead of truly living.

How to define your dream

If you don’t know where to start, I find this method the very best way to get back in touch with my dreams and what I want to achieve.  It’s simply asking yourself the following three questions:

1  |  Who do you want to BE?

Of course, this doesn’t mean being someone else!  Rather, it means what sort of traits or characteristics do you want to have?  You are perfect as you are right now, but we humans are geared towards expansion and improvement, towards growth, we can always improve on who we were yesterday.

If you close your eyes and picture yourself in 5 or 10 years’ time – your ideal self – what do you see?  What traits do you have?  Commitment?  Compassion?  Discipline?  Integrity?  Courage?  The list goes on.  If you make a conscious choice to be these things, you are more likely to ask yourself each day how you can demonstrate being committed, compassionate etc.

2  |  What do you want to DO?

Do you have a bucket list of all the things you’d love to do during your stay on this planet?  If you don’t, make one today!  As I write, I am creating my own ‘summer bucket list’.  I’ve discovered that over the years, when summer rolls round, I announce all these things I ‘really want to do this summer’, and then, of course, summer comes and goes and I haven’t done any of the things!  That’s because they are thoughts floating around in my head and I never get round to actually making them happen.  You probably have ideas floating around in your head for all the things you would like to do but until you get them down on paper and then make plans to make them happen, they will always just be thoughts!

Have you always wanted to speak a language fluently?

Learn how to make perfect macarons?

Volunteer for a couple of hours each week for a charity close to your heart?

Take 6 months off to travel the world?

Start that side hustle?

Instead of telling yourself you’ll get to it ‘some day’, write those things down TODAY and start thinking of ways to begin taking action on them!

3  |  What do you want to HAVE?

These are all the ‘things’ – both tangible and intangible.  Write ‘em all down – whether that’s your dream house, car, relationship, qualification, job, business … or the intangible things, which are often of far more value – time freedom, peace of mind, joy, for example.

Once you’ve written down all the things you want to BE, DO and HAVE, that’s a pretty good blueprint for you to start working on!  When I first asked myself what my dream was, it was a little difficult to describe in words and using this method was a great help in putting the puzzle pieces together.

Work backwards

Once you have your list of all the things you’d like to be, do and have, another great thing to do is to then work backwards.

If you look at all the things you would like to have, what would you need to do to get those things?  For example, if you want to take 6 months off to travel the world, what are some things you would need to do to make that happen?  Take a sabbatical from your job?  Save money to enable you to travel for 6 months without having to work?  Start planning your travel itinerary?

Once you have a list of the things you would need to do, you can move onto who you would need to be to make your dream of travelling for 6 months happen.  You would probably need to be financially savvy to save money, you would need to be disciplined too.  To start planning your travel itinerary, you would probably need to be organised, perhaps also creative or resourceful?

By keeping this list of all the things you want to be, do and have, you can then keep this as a live working document and keep changing it as you need to.  By seeing this written down, you no longer just have vague dreams floating around in your head but definite dreams that you are going to make happen!

Of course, dreaming is one thing.  Taking action on those dreams is another.

If you’d like a system to use to keep you taking daily, consistent action towards achieving your dreams and goals, whatever those are, then take a look at my Born to Flourish® planner-journal.  I created it for myself to get all those dreams out of my head and onto paper and formulate a plan to make them a reality.

So, the next time your dreams come nudging you, don’t chase them away … listen to them.  Grab hold of that dream seedling and nurture it.

Life is too short to live an unfulfilled, dreary life – you were born to FLOURISH and be all you were destined to be!